Changing the way that you see the world can have a huge effect on the results that you produce.
I firmly believe that every single person has the power to change their circumstances for the better, and create the life that they want to live. But only if they want it enough.
One area that I find very interesting is dependency.
Dependent or Independent?
Dependency is often tied into the victim mentality and the blame game. Dependency can look like:
- “I need my boss to let me do X and if he doesn’t I’m going to blame him/her for the fact that I’m not where I want to be”
- “I want my partner to understand me, but he/she doesn’t make the effort and it’s his/her fault that our relationship is deteriorating”
- “I haven’t had it easy like the baby boomer generation, and it’s because the government haven’t supported me that I haven’t been able to get a mortgage. It’s their fault”.
Instead, an independent mindset takes ownership. An independent mindset would ask:
- “How can I get to where I want to be or produce the results I desire with or without my boss’ support?”
- “I’m going to take responsibility in learning how to communicate with my partner more effectively, so that I can get on his/her wavelength and we can improve our relationship together”
- “Regardless of my circumstances, how can I find a way to increase my value so that I can raise my income to enable me to get a mortgage in the current economy?”
An independent mindset takes ownership and control of every situation, and works to influence the outcome regardless of any external person or circumstance.
An independent mindset commits to creating the circumstances it desires, rather than waiting for someone or something else to create the circumstances for it.
An independent mindset recognizes that it is never a victim of circumstance, and it always has the power to change the circumstances around it.
Take Ownership
By accepting responsibility and taking ownership, there is absolutely no limits to what an independent mindset can achieve. None at all.
Awareness is such a massive kickstarter to becoming truly independent. Unless you’re aware of what you’re saying to yourself, you aren’t going to be able to change it, right?
Do you ever fall into the trap of blaming external situations or people for your circumstances? I know I sometimes do. Listen to what your mind is saying to you. Does it accept responsibility? Or does it put any shortcomings down to someone or something else outside of you? It’s easy to blame, it’s much harder to take responsibility.
Take the first step. Become aware of your internal dialogue, and then take responsibility. Change yourself first, then your situation around you will change. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.
I’ll speak to you soon,
Dan
Dan Holloway – Founder of Scrap the 9 to 5 Ltd
Elite & Black Member of the SFM/DEA
